Why is it so hard to heal someone else?
24 Jan 2011
The act of healing is an internal energy shift which brings about a different expression. Frequently good intentions lead us to a place where we assume responsibility for someone else’s outcome. Many of us can resonate with this, as this is what we learn socially. We learn that if sick, we must assume the sick role which requires us to first have a desire to be better. It also requires us to expend some effort in improving our outcome from ill health to full health. It requires those around us to support our journey from ill health to full health. As our society changed from one of shamans and other healers, who played with energies, to physicians who operated and gave tinctures of medicine, we ceased to be responsible for the journey from ill health to full health. The physician became responsible for the outcome. We fully gave our power over to the physician who became responsible for the outcome and the lack of outcome as well.
This ignores the other aspects of the traditional sick role. First we should examine the desire to get well. This assumption is not always met. Sometimes there is some secondary benefit from not healing. This may be at the level of individual relationships where the sick role allows exercise of power and this is not easily relinquished. The individual is body, mind and spirit. So, this may also be at the level of mind, where to heal would threaten how the mind is put together, as is sometimes the case with the psychiatric patient. At the level of the spirit there may be some outcome that has another greater benefit, though this is more difficult to accept in a traditional western medical sense.
If we think of spirit as energetic consciousness, the essence connecting us, allowing us to communicate at distance as in twins sharing the same experience miles apart, then it becomes possible to see how intent on this level may be at variance with the ego level. This allows us to see how choice at an ego level itself may also be at variance with intent at a higher level of consciousness. This allows us to know a feeling of rightness with a particular result that may be at variance with an ego level. Because the energetic connection with everything else is always reflected through our systems, our state of health is a measure of our state of connection and a feedback measure. So, then, a shift from ill health to full health is perceived through a shift in consciousness.
We are then unable to ‘do’ healing for anyone. We cannot be responsible for someone else’s outcome because we cannot be responsible for their choice. Given the primary lesson from Newtonian Physics, which is that the very act of trying to do something creates resistance to what it is that you are trying to do, any attempt at trying to heal anyone can only fail.
It is easy to work with a neutral consciousness which has intent and to maintain form. A biologic consciousness not only maintains form, but as well homeostasis. Homeostasis represents this relationship with the whole, where there is balance between both the partial self and the whole.

One Response
2011 Jan 26
This lesson/knowledge has been taught in several traditional Spiritual orders over many life cycles. The ability to self-balance physically, spiritually & mentally requires great discipline and commitment to self. Most individuals, as your article clearly states, would rather lay this reponsibility on an external force. The self-healing attribute starts at the time of conception, as a matter of fact, during the divine process of creating & conceiving. Tapping into ones internal force and synchronizing with our external compatible force is a spiritual journey that must be completed for one to acomplish Self Healing. Thank you for sharing…Nhyire
Mena Yaa